Estranging my extended family.

In the last year, atop of everything else, I've been dealing with several members of my extended family who have been causing nothing but trouble for my parents who are still- for all intents and purposes....homeless after the flooding. {red tape and finance problems- all legitimate, nothing that can be controlled.}

Today, I cut the cord. After a year of backbiting, openly accusing my parents of squatting in my grandmother's house and not doing enough to move out (not true) and keeping my grandmother from coming back to visit us- especially now that son #2 is born...I came unglued and messaged both of them saying "fix it, or adios."

One's responded to me as I rather thought she would, and has been written off as dead to me.
The second is much more dramatic, she'll probably call me in a few days with fire coming out of her ass.

I didn't really expect either of them to make any attempt to resolve the situation, but I thought I'd ask them if they'd try.

The kicker is- the first one hasn't spoken to me in MONTHS. In one of her responses to me today she reamed me for having posted the birth announcement of Grant (son 2) on facebook and not calling her. Turned the birth of our kid into something about HER. That point is where I cut the cord and told her to 'call me when you can grow up a bit.'

I'm sure a few of you have gone through this before, I never have and its much easier than I anticipated. In fact, its a bit refreshing to have gotten it off my chest and move on. The REALLY good news....

I have two less Christmas cards to write out, so if anyone here wants their slots, we can arrange that

My wife (still weird saying that) and I had to deal with something like this, but not too extreme.  One of Kate's cousins is a recovering addict who's parents have died, her dad of suicide.  She has been given numerous chances by her family, including living at her aunt's and grandparent's duplex.  When living there, she stole money and jewelery from them and ruined a free living situation.  She's getting better, and living with her sister and holding a job now... but she's relapsed before...

SSOK wrote: With the amount of crap you have to deal with, you really don't need their BS. Good for you.