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RoboCop 
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You guys are getting it wrong. Need to get a girl that can move around and is already getting/has herself settled into the real world. My girlfriend of 2 years is a nurse and she has a job and I'm in my senior year of college in physics. So luckily for me, our residence can rely on me because she can move around to other hospitals around the nation. That's the nice thing about my relationship. She can always pack her bags up and find a job near me.
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stratoaxe
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Posted: 10 October 2012 at 12:47am |
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You can hold anything you want sneaky <3 Rofl-same here. |
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Posted: 10 October 2012 at 12:15am |
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I'm waiting to get a real career and permanent living before I mess with getting a relationship again.
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__sneaky__
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Posted: 09 October 2012 at 11:12pm |
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...can we all hold hands now?
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Yomillio
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Posted: 09 October 2012 at 10:30pm |
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Honestly, the best advice I have is super cliche, but its the truth, especially for guys like ya'll: Be yourself, be confident in who you are, and don't care too much what anyone else in the world thinks. Don't try to impress anyone, don't try to be something or someone you aren't, just be yourself. I found for myself that sometimes, its amazing what falls into place when you aren't concerned with anything except the things that you tackle day-to-day and the other things that make you tick. The best people like you for being you, and you don't need to pander down to other people who aren't that way. I know you've probably heard it a thousand and one times, but take it seriously. Take it further than the rest of the nursery-school butterflies-and-flowers sayings. I've found for myself that I've made my absolute best friends (male and female, non-sexual and otherwise, etc.) and met the best people I know when I've simply been honest with myself, and confident in my honesty.
Some of the best things come along when you aren't looking for them, and some of the hardest issues get solved when you aren't trying to fix them. Also, worth noting - I'm not some totem or model of self-confidence or something; quite the contrary. I struggle with self-esteem quite a bit. However, just because I'm not always self-confident in my appearance, conversations, etc. doesn't mean that I can't be self-confident in my honest feelings, thoughts, emotions, and actions. This is probably pretty key - being able to separate these out. You can't always be confident in your image, appearance, or outward interactions, but you can always be confident in yourself if you always be honest with yourself and put all your effort into what you try to do, and don't give up at the first sight of challenges.
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stratoaxe
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Posted: 09 October 2012 at 9:29pm |
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I take only one issue with any of this-
Lies. I get damp every time you post about food. |
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Mack
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Posted: 09 October 2012 at 9:15pm |
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This . . . I live it, it works . . . and the Gosh Dang Dos Equis most interesting man in the world looks up to me. All my years are the best of my life.
Bahaha! As to what strato said, be the kind of man you're comfortable with and be happy with it. I have nothing against the guys who want to pretty themselves up like the chicks used to . . . but that's not me.
Redneck has wisdom beyond his years. Edited by Mack - 09 October 2012 at 9:21pm |
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stratoaxe
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Posted: 09 October 2012 at 7:30pm |
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Pretty much hit the nail on the head there. 6 or 7 years ago I'd have paid money to have the easy access to one night stand I have now. Oh, and I'd have never taken the managers position at my job. Major chicken block there. |
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rednekk98
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Posted: 09 October 2012 at 7:24pm |
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If you have women problems you're a homo.
But seriously though, people, especially women, make no goddamn sense at all. I've notice that as I've grown older it's easier to pull, but you're less motivated to do so. Maybe the slight indifference looks like confidence, it's hard to tell. My life has had way too much uncertainty to make anything long-term, and I have made some unwise short-term decisions that I'm lucky didn't end up with me needing antibiotics or birdshot removed from my backside. My advice, is try someone slightly older. Younger girls like to play mind games, don't know what they want, or have totally delusional expectations about pretty much everything. Older ones tend to be more realistic and down to earth, more straightforward, and better at what they do. I'm not saying you should go cougar hunting, but if you aren't feeling as full of youthful foolishness, don't seek the company of youthful fools.
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__sneaky__
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Posted: 09 October 2012 at 6:37pm |
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Which is why I have to nab women fast, before they realize I'm a terrible chef.
*and unorganized. Edited by __sneaky__ - 09 October 2012 at 6:37pm |
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stratoaxe
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Posted: 09 October 2012 at 6:20pm |
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Haha I gotcha man.
Sexuality is becoming ambiguous because, as I said earlier, post civil rights woman have forcibly moved their social status in a very rapid way. So while we made kitchen jokes at them they replace us in high level positions on a daily basis. Something like 60% of law graduates this year will be female. Lawyers become politicians and politicians make policy. So our roles as men are shifting because women don't need big hairy men to protect them. They need Sneaky to cook for them and organize their toiletries. |
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DeTrevni
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Hooo, man. Firstly, I'd like to apologize. I had slipped into a wave of depression (it comes and goes these days), and I got to typing faster than I could think. I've vented, and I feel better now. However, what's been said has been said, so I'd like to clarify a few things, objectively.
Firstly, when I mentioned masculinity, I was referencing confidence. You can be Burt Reynolds, you could be Johnny Depp, but the root of it all is confidence in one's self. I've always found that confidence to BE George Clooney or Orlando Bloom (figuratively) as opposed to TRYING to be them is an indicator of one's masculinity, or confidence in themselves as men. Or in reference to women, femininity. Whatever. It's all personal identity. You may ask "Golly DeTrevni, why not just call it 'self-confidence?'" Well, you'd be right, but there are underlying characteristics as well, associated with one's gender. Old ideals such as Chivalry, or even English (or Southern) gentry (of the more contemporary definition) inspire me. A social etiquette that I think has kinda fizzled out over the years. Really though, all that is non sequitur. I should have just referenced it as "confidence" and left the masculinity out of it, but I wasn't thinking straight. That said, the subject of sexuality is the root to many of my problems today, and I guess this is where I got the "masculinity" bit from. Because of my overall lack of self-confidence, I occasionally question my standing as a "man." Yes, it's shallow, I know, but it's a legitimate worry for me. I appreciate the words and tough love, but it has been so ingrained into my psyche that "just get over it" won't cut it, unfortunately. Of course, I work in a machine shop surrounded by the typical blue-collar types who weigh masculinity on a scale of how many girls they can bang, and how often. Naturally, that can whittle away at my ego over time, shallow though it may be. It's tough to stay strong. It really is. So essentially, I wasn't referencing Burt Reynolds as much as I was referencing confidence. I wish I had more, sure, but I'm doing hella better than I was. No doubt. I still get waves of "identity crisis" now and again, as can be seen, but I'm really doing better. Sorry to be the Debbie Downer here. Edited by DeTrevni - 09 October 2012 at 6:08pm |
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SSOK
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Posted: 09 October 2012 at 5:30pm |
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This thread got weird.
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Posted: 09 October 2012 at 5:15pm |
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I can't speak for you, but Gatyr personally gave me those photos.
... and they were beautiful.
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tallen702
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Posted: 09 October 2012 at 5:04pm |
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It's kinda like that time you and I worked out our heterosexuality with that bottle of honey and some pictures we stole off FB of Gatyr......  I kid! I kid! |
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tallen702
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Posted: 09 October 2012 at 5:02pm |
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Okay Strato and DeTrevni,
Every morning, I want you to wake up, take a shower, brush your teeth, look in the mirror and tell yourselves "Damn I'm Good!" Okay, so maybe not like that, but in the other things you do. I was a high school outcast with no friends who only had a few friends in College and have probably about the same now that I'm out of school. I'm not a popular guy and women don't get a damp in the panties when I walk by. But when I do something, and do it well, I own it. I take a look at what I've made/done/said and tell the world that, "Dammit, I'm THAT frikken good baby!" And when I do that, it gives my confidence a boost and it then carries over into other things I do. You do that enough, and it works its way into your everyday life and people notice it. It's not the false sense of bravado that fratboys and "bros" exude, it's the real deal and worthwhile women (and men) can tell the difference. Does that mean I don't ever go "damn, I wish I had a six-pack and all my hair?" Of course not! But the confidence I carry from the things I CAN control outweighs the negative of the self doubt and it shows. So, next time you do something that you know is the shiznit, pat yourself on the back and hold onto it. |
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Posted: 09 October 2012 at 4:50pm |
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ITT: Stratoaxe and Detrevni tackle the issue of heterogeneity by flirting with one another.
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stratoaxe
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Posted: 09 October 2012 at 4:28pm |
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Kayback-Dammit I just got that back :(
DeTrev-don't define yourself.by your perception of masculinity. There are Burt Reynolds and there are johnny depps, and guess who women prefer? The johnny depps. I'm very girly. I have my playlist organized by chick song-guy song so I can easily switch at red lights. But I'm also into cars, guns, hunting, etc. Most people think I'm gay when they first meet me and assume I'm a liberal gay boy who drives a prius. The point is I accept what I am and I'm confident in it. A girl likes cowboys or bad boy types? I'll talk to her anyway because you never know when a girl is just really wanting some intelligent conversation and you're gonna be the guy who provides it. You have no idea how many times I've gotten laid inviting a girlover to watch a Disney movie or listen to John Mayer. It's all about confidence, not looks, money, or manliness. Embrace whatever you classify yourself as and be funny about it. It takes girls of guard. |
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DeTrevni
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Posted: 09 October 2012 at 1:13pm |
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This is exactly the crux of it! Of people like me... The question that is on the back of my mind at all times is, "Am I manly enough?" It's a self-defeating question! If I even ask, the answer is automatically "no." Just asking is an indicator of the lack of confidence in my own masculinity. Some people who ask the question too much try to validate their masculinity through banging bimbos and just being competitive (in an animalistic sense). "Frat boys," as it were. The opposite end of the spectrum for the question-askers is an acceptance of lack of confidence, which is where I suffer. Before I even begin, I accept that I'm not good enough, or what have you, so I abandon the idea. The specific area I suffer from is sexuality, and it's a vicious cycle. I can't get any because I lack confidence, and I lack confidence because I can't get any. What the hell am I supposed to do? I can't just say "get over it and get over her." My mental barrier simply prevents that! Edit: I did it again. Sorry, I don't want to thread-jack...
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