Blows my mind...

So a girl from the town I grew up in died last night in a car accident, it was a tragedy and she was only 16. I log on facebook today and see, about 30 people have there status' as "RIP" "omg I cant belive it" etc...

At first I thought it was pretty offensive, not sure why it just made me angry. Then I noticed someone had made a group called RIP <name> with 100s of people joining it...

what would posses someone to do this? what are your opinions? I think its crazy offensive and I would be pissed if I died and people made a facebook group about me.

They did this when Reiny & lexi (17 year old girls) were killed in rollovers 3 weeks ago (they were 2 days apart). I dont worry bout it, Its what us kids do. Their familes appreciated it, it showed that they had alot of people that cared for their daughers. We were even thanked at their funerals.

Im surprised with your responces, I thought you guys would have agreed with me. I think facebook is just lazy and gossipy. in my opinion if you want to honor the person then do something. posting something on facebook and clicking a button means absolutly nothing.

When my best friend died, and me and and group of friends (3 or 4 very close) stayed with the family  every day for a week after, we got a plaque and mounted it at the top of our ski hill, I wrote a letter to his mom and made a photo album for her with hiking and skiing pictures. My other friend cleaned there house, and helped with grocery shopping etc..

Now I just giving an example, when he died going on facebook didnt even go into my mind. again seems lazy and gossipy. and if your not close enough to do anything for the family then you obvously wernt that close and just being gossipy.

Ya, I guess to each his own. personally this kind of stuff I have always been sensitive to. I am just scared people are turning death into gossip. I remember when I was in highschool this girl died and everyone skipped class and sat in the gym talking about it. and the teachers didnt care because they thought the same thing, "oh its just people paying there respects and talking about there loss and looking for support", but to me it just felt like gossip and people using the death as a means of directing attention onto them selves. I ended up just walking home because I couldnt take it.

Lost a high-school acquaintance to cancer some time around thanksgiving. It's always weird to hear that kind of news.

Ya i guess its bad I am accusing people. Its just I have had several close people to me die, and not once has going on facebook to let the masses know how much pain or sorrow i felt. A death to me is personal and should receive personal attention.

You guys have convinced me though that its really not that big of a deal, and I will try not to let it bother me as much. I just hope when I die people either remember me by the selves in there own way, or try to personally help the people who were close to me.


Edited by FROG MAN - 03 December 2009 at 9:41pm

Good way to keep everyone up on memorial information, etc.
Don't feel bad, one of my ex-drug using buddies overdosed and people were posting things like "you owe me money" on his wall.

Totally innocent, and all the friends aren't totally exclusive close friends that need to do their shopping.

FROG MAN wrote: Im surprised with your responces, I thought you guys would have agreed with me. I think facebook is just lazy and gossipy. in my opinion if you want to honor the person then do something. posting something on facebook and clicking a button means absolutly nothing.

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