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    Posted: 31 March 2005 at 9:26pm
I've been having some really intense
internal conflicts recently and it occurred to me to
bring this to the forum - A place where I'm afforded a
certain degree of anonymity.

First I'll have to start with some general background
information (so you can get a better idea of where I'm
coming from)... This will be a relatively long post, so
if you're the type to punch in some stupid, "that's too
long L0L!1" garbage, you can stop right here.

The truth is, I've always felt I was a little different.
Even when I was about six it seemed that I got my
kicks differently than the other boys in my school.
While they were playing football or arm wrestling it
seemed like I was always painting or practicing
violin.

I learned extremely quickly, however, that this was
"unacceptable" by the general standard. I quickly
developed was of veiling this glaring difference.
Most of you on the forum know me as goofy,
spontaneous, etc. etc. - One of my many facades to
avoid the obvious fact that I'm a homosexual.

There it is - first time I've told anybody. Probably the
first time I've ever truly admitted it to myself. I've been
having a really hard time coming to grips with this
fact alone, but it gets even more complicated
(unfortunately).

As some of you may know (or maybe not) I just
returned to a public school after attending private
school for five years. The people are a little less
open-minded, but there is also, I've found, a more
diverse student body - That is to say, more
homosexual guys my age. This is completely new to
me, and with it has come a problem... I'm attracted
to a boy in one of my classes, and am possibly
interested in dating him.

Not only is homosexuality an extremely dangerous
thing to persue in a highschool environment, but I
also haven't (and don't know how to) come out of the
closet. Please help me out on this one guys.

Any advice, personal experience, etc. would be much
aprecciated - as well as your utmost seriousness in
the matter.

-Prod

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Wait till college. Everyone is out of the closet there.

It is okay to have the erection when you gym teacher walks by.

I am here for you....

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Wow, I never knew.

Well, I really have no experience in the matter but so long as you dont make a huge deal about it and do it gracefully, it should be ok.  Granted a few idiots wont make it easy, but you cant do anything about that.

Best of luck!

P.S - There are numerous clubs and groups about this, check them out.

P.P.S - As Cedric pointed out, you still have my respect


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Be yourself. You haven't changed in my eyes.

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Well, if you are joking. You have been funier, mearly because of the fact that if i laugh, and you arent joking i will feel like a horses behind.

But if you arent. There are some good people in highschool, but becareful who you tell and whatnot, high school kids can be very very mean and cruel to others that are different.
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote Monk Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 31 March 2005 at 9:34pm

Well then...Congratulations.

Is the other guy **edited** too?

That would be a biggie if he wasnt. Like really Unconfortable conversation wise.

Im with Hades. Your what, a junior-senior. Just wait and watch if you fear being pounded.

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I am speechless.  I guess the sooner you come out the better.

Edit:(Like Ced)You still have my utmost respect.


(April fools is tomorrow./Me Looks around very suspiciously.)


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Being that I have the utmost respect for you.  I shall say no more.
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you've always been a little emo-wuss.
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wow just wow....you will still be prod to me and some of the other guys...i have not been on this forum for very long....so dont be like "fallen u dont even know wut ur talking about" well ur still the prod that has made some of the best threads ever such as four word post, yo and a few others

good luck

P.S. u still have my utmost respect also



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Yep, i was showering after wrestling, as i was getting ready to shower up and go home. I heard something, got my towel, and there was a kid ive known for years, really hurt, im not going to go into any specifics, but he was hurt pretty badly, because someone found out he was homosexual. Some kids beat him to a pulp and did some other things to him. He never said who it was.
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Yea i would wait for college too, people will be less judgemental and you'll be lot less stressed out cause won't have to deal wit all the stupid people in highschool. But u can still be friends wit the guy till then. But u should do wut u feel more comfortable wit
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Christ Gopher, for the first time in my life I
ask people to be serious and this is how you react?
Grow up.

It didn't even occur to me that tomorrow is April
fools...Incredibly crappy timing.

I guess those of you who choose not to believe me,
oh well; but I thank those of you who know me well
enough to take me seriously.
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Prod, if you want to date him. Date him, but if you can, do it descretely, i dont know where you live, but kids can be very cruel.
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Hey!

I too agree that you should hold off your homo-endeavors until after high school.

This is because most high school students are too immature to know how to deal with co-existing with a homosexual person.

So instead they go about it in the normal immature high school manner and ridicule you, discriminate against you, and essentially make your life hell.

Now if I didn't know you for as long as I have and was a complete jerk, I would have ripped you apart with this post instead of consult you.

That's because personally...I don't like **edited**s, never have.

But like I said, I know you, respect you, and have no real reason to do that.

Good Luck with everything!

Much repsect for "coming out of the closet"!

That takes balls!



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Bold first step - well done.   *applauds*

I am inclined to parrot Hades' advice - without knowing more about your school, I would agree that you unfortunately could be in some physical/psychological danger in high school.  College, particularly on either coast, will be much more open for you.

As unfair as this is, I would also encourage you to hold off on dating until you are in a safe environment.  Being publicly g.ay in high school is one thing - being publicly g.ay and dating is something else entirely.  Many high schoolers are open-minded about homosexuality until they see it in action.

So unless you are very confident that your school is "safe" (which does not sound to be the case), I would suggest waiting for some time.

And I am not touching the subject of when/how to tell your family.  Much more complicated.

More importantly, however, I would suggest visiting some g.ay website/forums, if you haven't already.  People there will have actual experiences to share, and you can remain anonymous while you learn.  If you do this, however, BEWARE!  Nothing attracts unsavory characters like "hi - I am innocent and need somebody to hold my hand while I come out."  Deploy all shields at full strength.

Which goes back to my earlier advice - postpone dating (my opinion - others may disagree).  Teenage dating is hazardous at best for anybody - homosexual teenagers have the double whammy.  Until you are more comfortable with yourself, I would suggest not getting involved with anyone - as frustrating as that can be.

If you are truly isolated and don't know about forums/organizations/whatever (and don't want to ask the locals) and need some contacts, drop me a PM - I have some resources.

Good luck.

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Wow. Well, I can say this much. Take stock of the school. I know around here(other side of the state, given), people in our town are relatively indifferent to stuff like this. It ranges from acceptance to an undercurrent of disgust. You should probably talk to a guidance counselor or someone who you trust a great deal. Good luck! You're still the same guy you were 20 minutes ago in my book!

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Even if you are kidding your journal and your slippers had me convinced along time ago.


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Brave thing to do. 
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