very much crushed....

Hang out with your closest buddies for a long while, if at all possible (I'm talking a couple of hours a day here, not a couple of hours a week) -- it helps out a lot. Do something that involves (helping) other people if at all possible. Also, do things that'll keep your mind off of her: Sports, if you're into that sort of thing; computer games; exercise; school.

Things are going to be weird between you and her for a long period of time -- that's normal. And you're probably going to think about her a lot during this period of time -- that's normal too. And you'll probably even think that there's a slight chance that you guys will get back together -- this is normal as well. And though what we say or do may not alter your opinion on this matter, you should really not try to hang on to her or any sort hope that you can salvage the relationship. Separate yourself from her until you, yourself feel stable and comfortable. She's already let you go and now it's your turn to let her go.

You'll hear it a million times from a million faces: "Move on. There's other fish in the sea." And you won't want to -- because it hurts to think that something that was once so close is now gone; you'll think that you will never find somebody as good as her. Time will heal these wounds, however, I promise, so be patient while it works its magic. In a few weeks/months you'll get over the whole situation. Until then, however, try to keep your mind occupied with other things, as mentioned above. I'm sure a lot of us have experienced this matter before, some more affected than others. So we know what you're going through. If you need to vent/talk about something we are (Or at the very least, I am) here to listen.

Keep that chin up, boy. You'll find another.

Out.

Like I said, no matter what we tell him, he's going to have that slight sliver of hope that they'll get back together. And there's nothing we can do about it other than wait. Heck, I've been in that mental state before.

Chances are if she broke up with you bro, you guys aren't going to get back together -- unless you guys broke up due to some serious freak accident. Like I said in my previous post, and SandMan in his, you don't want this situation dominating your life. It hurts, we all know that, but hanging on to her will only put you through more unnecessary heartache and pain. Move on. If by some chance down the road you guys do happen to get back together, great. But for the time being just try not to think about it. It's only going to make it worse for you.

I feel, however, that what we say will simply fall upon deaf ears. Not because you are ignorant/naive/selfish by any means -- it has nothing to do with you at all. It's just the way the heart is.